How Strong is Your Family’s Foundation? A Heart check for every Home

Every structure stands—or falls—on its foundation. Your home is no different.

In our fast-paced, chaotic world, it's easy for families to get caught in survival mode, drifting apart instead of drawing closer. But a thriving family doesn't happen by accident. It happens with intention, faith, and unity.

This quiz isn’t about perfection. It’s about truth and growth. Whether you feel like your home is rock-solid or you’re sensing some cracks in the walls, this quiz will help you discover where your family stands—and what to do next to build something unshakable.

Are you ready to uncover the strength of your family’s foundation?

QUIZ: How Strong Is Your Family’s Foundation?

Choose the answer that best reflects your family life today.

1. When disagreements happen in our home:

A. We argue, shut down, or avoid the issue altogether.

B. We try to work through it, though it sometimes ends unresolved.

C. We listen, seek understanding, and aim to restore peace quickly.

2. Our family's spiritual life is:

A. Rare or nonexistent.

B. Sporadic—we try, but it’s not consistent.

C. A daily part of our life; we pray, talk about God, and grow together.

3. When it comes to spending time together as a family:

A. Everyone’s doing their own thing—connection is rare.

B. We do spend time together, but we are often distracted.

C. We prioritize family time and make it intentional and joyful.

4. Each member of our family feels:

A. Unseen or unheard at times.

B. Somewhat valued, though there's room for improvement.

C. Loved, safe, and deeply known.

5. In our home, discipline and boundaries are:

A. Inconsistent or too harsh.

B. Set but not always followed through.

C. Clear, consistent, and done in love.

6. Communication in our family looks like:

A. Sarcasm, yelling, or silence.

B. Talking—but not always listening.

C. Honest, respectful conversations with space for emotions.

7. When it comes to handling outside influences (friends, media, culture):

A. We let things slide without much discussion.

B. We try to monitor, but it’s hard to keep up.

C. We’re proactive and talk often about values and boundaries.

8. In terms of our family’s purpose and mission:

A. We’ve never really talked about it.

B. We have good intentions but no clear direction.

C. We know who we are, and we live on purpose.

9. Forgiveness in our home is:

A. Rare—we hold on to things.

B. Sometimes offered, sometimes not

.C. Freely given and modeled by everyone.

10. When life gets hard, our family:

A. Falls into conflict, blame, or withdrawal.

B. Struggles, but eventually comes back together.

C. Rallies together, prays, and grows stronger.

 RESULTS:

Tally up your points:

• A = 1 point

• B = 2 points

• C = 3 points

Now add up your total score.

 10–15 points: Cracked but Not Crushed

Your family is under pressure, and the foundation is showing signs of wear. But here's the good news: no foundation is beyond repair. With intentional steps and God’s help, you can rebuild what’s broken. Take heart—you are not alone, and hope is stronger than struggle.

Action Step: Start small. Choose one area to focus on this week—perhaps having a family meal, starting a prayer habit, or opening a hard conversation.

 16–23 points: Growing but Wobbly

Your family has some strong beams in place, but there's room to solidify the foundation. You’ve already done important work—now it’s time to go deeper. Strengthening communication, spiritual unity, and purpose.

Action Step: Schedule a family night to talk about what matters most. Use this time to reconnect and invite God to help you grow together.

 24–30 points: Rooted and Resilient

Your family is thriving with a strong foundation built on love, faith, and unity. Celebrate that! But don’t get comfortable—keep building. Your home can become a lighthouse for others walking through storms.

Action Step: Pray together about how your family can be a blessing to others. Consider mentoring or walking alongside another family in need of encouragement.

No matter your score, remember this:

“Unless the Lord builds the house, the builders labor in vain.” – Psalm 127:1

A strong family foundation doesn’t happen overnight, but it begins with a decision. One prayer. One moment of honesty. One act of love.

At Directed Arrows, we’re here to walk with you on this journey.